I was quite upset by this conversation. I knew she was not happy and her husband’s attitude was going to make her resent him in the long term. There was no equality in the relationship.
A strong partnership is allowing each person in the relationship to feel equal, this includes looking after money. If you are unhappy with the way you are being treated, then have a conversation with your partner. Let them know how having to ask for money makes you feel. A solution may be for you to have your own bank account so that whenever your partner gets paid, a certain amount is automatically put into your account. This is your money and you can then do whatever you want with it. There is no need to ask permission to spend your money. This may empower you and stop you from feeling powerless.