When you are young, you have all these plans and expectations about what you want to achieve in life. My list simply went something like this:
1. Finish my university degree
2. Get married
3. Have children
4. Lose weight
5. Invest in property
6. Help others
7. Write a book
Everyone has their own ‘list’ but that was basically mine in a nut shell. By my mid-thirties, I had achieved most of my goals except the last one. I wanted to be an author but with a young family, investing in property and working full time, I had little spare time left over to devote to writing. I was also unsure about what to write about fiction/ non-fiction. The possibilities were endless.
After a number of years, my marriage broke down and I found myself as a divorced mother with young children. My whole world seemed to turn upside down at the time, as ‘getting divorced’ was not on my list. Cinderella married her Prince Charming and lived happily ever after. I never read anything about Cinderella’s divorce attorney, the division of assets and custody arrangements for their kids.
Going through a marriage break up, was the toughest period in my life but I also grew a great deal as a person during that time. I discovered that I was stronger than I had ever imagined. Through trial and error I found out how to manage my money as a single parent, so that I could work part time, pay for childcare and all the bills that come with supporting a family. In time, I regained the confidence to invest in property and plan a secure future for my family. Dieting, I finally realised was unnecessary as my body was fine just the way it was. All those years of being influenced by society and trying to lose weight was wasted energy.
Through observing others and looking at my own life, I found that karma existed and what goes around comes around.
However not everyone makes that connection. As a wise person once told me, act with good intentions and then the situation will work out well. You do not have to take my word for it, just look at your own life and what has happened when you have had good or bad motivations. I have found when you have negative objectives; the situation will backfire on you. When you have done something out of the goodness of your heart, positive circumstances flow your way.
If someone had told me when I was twenty, that I would one day be a contented single parent with kids, who worked full time, invested in property and wrote a book, I would have thought that it was impossible. How could an ordinary person achieve all of this as sole parent and actually find peace and fulfilment? Yet here I am living my dream and enjoying every moment of it.
Life does not always turn out exactly like you planned, sometimes it is even better.
1. Finish my university degree
2. Get married
3. Have children
4. Lose weight
5. Invest in property
6. Help others
7. Write a book
Everyone has their own ‘list’ but that was basically mine in a nut shell. By my mid-thirties, I had achieved most of my goals except the last one. I wanted to be an author but with a young family, investing in property and working full time, I had little spare time left over to devote to writing. I was also unsure about what to write about fiction/ non-fiction. The possibilities were endless.
After a number of years, my marriage broke down and I found myself as a divorced mother with young children. My whole world seemed to turn upside down at the time, as ‘getting divorced’ was not on my list. Cinderella married her Prince Charming and lived happily ever after. I never read anything about Cinderella’s divorce attorney, the division of assets and custody arrangements for their kids.
Going through a marriage break up, was the toughest period in my life but I also grew a great deal as a person during that time. I discovered that I was stronger than I had ever imagined. Through trial and error I found out how to manage my money as a single parent, so that I could work part time, pay for childcare and all the bills that come with supporting a family. In time, I regained the confidence to invest in property and plan a secure future for my family. Dieting, I finally realised was unnecessary as my body was fine just the way it was. All those years of being influenced by society and trying to lose weight was wasted energy.
Through observing others and looking at my own life, I found that karma existed and what goes around comes around.
However not everyone makes that connection. As a wise person once told me, act with good intentions and then the situation will work out well. You do not have to take my word for it, just look at your own life and what has happened when you have had good or bad motivations. I have found when you have negative objectives; the situation will backfire on you. When you have done something out of the goodness of your heart, positive circumstances flow your way.
If someone had told me when I was twenty, that I would one day be a contented single parent with kids, who worked full time, invested in property and wrote a book, I would have thought that it was impossible. How could an ordinary person achieve all of this as sole parent and actually find peace and fulfilment? Yet here I am living my dream and enjoying every moment of it.
Life does not always turn out exactly like you planned, sometimes it is even better.
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