Realise that you have the power to make positive changes in your life.
Have a great day and remember to keep smiling. You can like my Facebook page to get more up to date posts. Blessings.
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When you are a child your parents make decisions for you. However, once you are an adult, you are responsible for your life. You cannot blame your parents, your ex-partners, your job, or your age. Learn from the experience and move on. Build a better life now that you know better. Do not let your past, ruin your future.
Realise that you have the power to make positive changes in your life. Have a great day and remember to keep smiling. You can like my Facebook page to get more up to date posts. Blessings.
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Happy New Year everyone.
My birthday is close to the New Year so soon after I think about my New Year’s resolutions, I think about getting older. This year however I came across a story on social media about a young woman named Holly Butcher who passed away a few days after the New Year. She was only 26 and she had written a very powerful Facebook post about appreciating life. I have shared her words below and hope you find it as thought provoking as I did, as you start your new year. Please like my page on Facebook so you can get more up to date posts. Blessings. “A bit of life advice from Hol: It’s a strange thing to realise and accept your mortality at 26 years young. It’s just one of those things you ignore. The days tick by and you just expect they will keep on coming; Until the unexpected happens. I always imagined myself growing old, wrinkled and grey- most likely caused by the beautiful family (lots of kiddies) I planned on building with the love of my life. I want that so bad it hurts. That’s the thing about life; It is fragile, precious and unpredictable and each day is a gift, not a given right. I’m 27 now. I don’t want to go. I love my life. I am happy.. I owe that to my loved ones. But the control is out of my hands. I haven’t started this ‘note before I die’ so that death is feared - I like the fact that we are mostly ignorant to it’s inevitability.. Except when I want to talk about it and it is treated like a ‘taboo’ topic that will never happen to any of us.. That’s been a bit tough. I just want people to stop worrying so much about the small, meaningless stresses in life and try to remember that we all have the same fate after it all so do what you can to make your time feel worthy and great, minus the bullshit. I have dropped lots of my thoughts below as I have had a lot of time to ponder life these last few months. Of course it’s the middle of the night when these random things pop in my head most! Those times you are whinging about ridiculous things (something I have noticed so much these past few months), just think about someone who is really facing a problem. Be grateful for your minor issue and get over it. It’s okay to acknowledge that something is annoying but try not to carry on about it and negatively effect other people’s days. Once you do that, get out there and take a freaking big breath of that fresh Aussie air deep in your lungs, look at how blue the sky is and how green the trees are; It is so beautiful. Think how lucky you are to be able to do just that - breathe. You might have got caught in bad traffic today, or had a bad sleep because your beautiful babies kept you awake, or your hairdresser cut your hair too short. Your new fake nails might have got a chip, your boobs are too small, or you have cellulite on your arse and your belly is wobbling. Let all that shit go.. I swear you will not be thinking of those things when it is your turn to go. It is all SO insignificant when you look at life as a whole. I’m watching my body waste away right before my eyes with nothing I can do about it and all I wish for now is that I could have just one more Birthday or Christmas with my family, or just one more day with my partner and dog. Just one more. I hear people complaining about how terrible work is or about how hard it is to exercise - Be grateful you are physically able to. Work and exercise may seem like such trivial things ... until your body doesn’t allow you to do either of them. I tried to live a healthy life, in fact, that was probably my major passion. Appreciate your good health and functioning body- even if it isn’t your ideal size. Look after it and embrace how amazing it is. Move it and nourish it with fresh food. Don’t obsess over it. Remember there are more aspects to good health than the physical body.. work just as hard on finding your mental, emotional and spiritual happiness too. That way you might realise just how insignificant and unimportant having this stupidly portrayed perfect social media body really is.. While on this topic, delete any account that pops up on your news feeds that gives you any sense of feeling shit about yourself. Friend or not.. Be ruthless for your own well-being. Be grateful for each day you don’t have pain and even the days where you are unwell with man flu, a sore back or a sprained ankle, accept it is shit but be thankful it isn’t life threatening and will go away. Whinge less, people! .. And help each other more. Give, give, give. It is true that you gain more happiness doing things for others than doing them for yourself. I wish I did this more. Since I have been sick, I have met the most incredibly giving and kind people and been the receiver of the most thoughtful and loving words and support from my family, friends and strangers; More than I could I ever give in return. I will never forget this and will be forever grateful to all of these people. It is a weird thing having money to spend at the end.. when you’re dying. It’s not a time you go out and buy material things that you usually would, like a new dress. It makes you think how silly it is that we think it is worth spending so much money on new clothes and ‘things’ in our lives. Buy your friend something kind instead of another dress, beauty product or jewellery for that next wedding. 1. No-one cares if you wear the same thing twice 2. It feels good. Take them out for a meal, or better yet, cook them a meal. Shout their coffee. Give/ buy them a plant, a massage or a candle and tell them you love them when you give it to them. Value other people’s time. Don’t keep them waiting because you are shit at being on time. Get ready earlier if you are one of those people and appreciate that your friends want to share their time with you, not sit by themselves, waiting on a mate. You will gain respect too! Amen sister. This year, our family agreed to do no presents and despite the tree looking rather sad and empty (I nearly cracked Christmas Eve!), it was so nice because people didn’t have the pressure of shopping and the effort went into writing a nice card for each other. Plus imagine my family trying to buy me a present knowing they would probably end up with it themselves.. strange! It might seem lame but those cards mean more to me than any impulse purchase could. Mind you, it was also easier to do in our house because we had no little kiddies there. Anyway, moral of the story- presents are not needed for a meaningful Christmas. Moving on. Use your money on experiences.. Or at least don’t miss out on experiences because you spent all your money on material shit. Put in the effort to do that day trip to the beach you keep putting off. Dip your feet in the water and dig your toes in the sand. Wet your face with salt water. Get amongst nature. Try just enjoying and being in moments rather than capturing them through the screen of your phone. Life isn’t meant to be lived through a screen nor is it about getting the perfect photo.. enjoy the bloody moment, people! Stop trying to capture it for everyone else. Random rhetorical question. Are those several hours you spend doing your hair and make up each day or to go out for one night really worth it? I’ve never understood this about females 🤔. Get up early sometimes and listen to the birds while you watch the beautiful colours the sun makes as it rises. Listen to music.. really listen. Music is therapy. Old is best. Cuddle your dog. Far out, I will miss that. Talk to your friends. Put down your phone. Are they doing okay? Travel if it’s your desire, don’t if it’s not. Work to live, don’t live to work. Seriously, do what makes your heart feel happy. Eat the cake. Zero guilt. Say no to things you really don’t want to do. Don’t feel pressured to do what other people might think is a fulfilling life.. you might want a mediocre life and that is so okay. Tell your loved ones you love them every time you get the chance and love them with everything you have. Also, remember if something is making you miserable, you do have the power to change it - in work or love or whatever it may be. Have the guts to change. You don’t know how much time you’ve got on this earth so don’t waste it being miserable. I know that is said all the time but it couldn’t be more true. Anyway, that’s just this one young gals life advice. Take it or leave it, I don’t mind! Oh and one last thing, if you can, do a good deed for humanity (and myself) and start regularly donating blood. It will make you feel good with the added bonus of saving lives. I feel like it is something that is so overlooked considering every donation can save 3 lives! That is a massive impact each person can have and the process really is so simple. Blood donation (more bags than I could keep up with counting) helped keep me alive for an extra year - a year I will be forever grateful that I got to spend it here on Earth with my family, friends and dog. A year I had some of the greatest times of my life. ..’Til we meet again. Hol Xoxo” Life is full of ups and downs. Just when you think that you can relax, something unexpected can pop up. It can make you sad or angry at the time. However, try not to let it change you into an unhappy or bitter person. Go through the experience but try and see what you can learn from it. Walk away with lessons rather than dwelling on the pain. I recently experienced a rather sad event and at the time I was immersed in my own pain. As the days passed by I suddenly realized that this event had blurred all my other “problems”. I had spent too much energy worrying about issues that did not really matter. In fact the event made me realise what was really important in my life. It gave me a new perspective and all the other issues suddenly did not seem so important. When you let go of the little things, you will feel as though a great weight has been lifted from your shoulders. You can like my page on Facebook and get more up to date posts.
Blessings everyone. Ever met someone who was just rude. How did you feel when they spoke to you like that ?
We all have our stressful days where we can be a bit short with people. However if we can be mindful of how we treat other people, then you can actually help to make someone feel better. Is it not better to see someone smile rather than to see them walk away unhappy. We are bombarded by media to find flaws in almost every part of our bodies. Instead of finding fault with your body, learn to accept it just the way it is. Once you do that, you will discover a whole new world where you can be happier.
Tonight I watched a TV show which was basically a forum of women who discussed their various views on finances. Some women found themselves homeless after the age of fifty. One woman found herself living in her car, another lived with her children and another shared a house with other women. They each bravely discussed the events that took place which led to their situation. The reasons varied from illness to just not planning for their retirement. As I listened to the show it brought me back to the main reason I wrote my book. Everyone (men and women) need to plan for their financial future.
Learning about money is just like learning to walk. You take baby steps first before deciding to go for a run. The main thing is that when you fall down you have to get back up again and move forward. Do not look back at your failures. Learn from your mistakes and move on. It is never too late to learn about money and plan for your future. When you have your own money you can then make the choice to live your life the way you want. Your future is in your own hands. You can like my Facebook page here https://www.facebook.com/karenfernandezaustralia?ref. One of the reasons I wrote my book was that I was meeting so many people who were in financial difficulty because they allowed other people to manage their money.
While I was going through my divorce a work colleague approached me for advice. Her Aunty Mary had been married to a very successful business man who had managed the couple’s finances during the marriage. Now that Mary was going through a divorce she felt lost as she had no idea how to manage her money. Mary was also unsure about exactly how much money they had during the marriage. All her bank accounts were in joint names and her husband had cleared the accounts so that she had no money. If Mary had her own account and had taken an interest in her own money, she would have found herself in a much more comfortable position after her marriage broke down. Mary is not alone and there are both men and women who blindly hand over control of their finances to their spouses, managers, accountants and investment bankers. It is important for you to know exactly how much money you have coming in and going out. Take an interest in what is going on with your money because at the end of the day, this is your life and you are the best person to look after your money. What is the quickest and easiest way to make money ?
If you want results now, all you have to do is spend less. Here are some steps to help you make money in one week:
By making little changes in your life style, you can save money and put it towards something that you really value. Perhaps pay extra towards your mortgage, car or take a family holiday. Making money does not mean you have to work an extra job. You can do it by making little changes in your life starting today. In school we are used to getting grades to show us how well we are doing. In life getting positive feedback can be very rare. There is no one to grade you on how well you cleaned the house, completed the report at work or put the garbage out.
It is important for us to praise ourselves occasionally and acknowledge that we are doing a great job. Do not wait for others to notice what you have done. Be satisfied within yourself that you did a good job. You do not need anyone else to make you feel good. Take back your power and give yourself that A plus for the great job you are doing in life. You can like my Facebook page to receive more regular updates. Life is far from perfect. There is no living happily ever after. You have your good days and your bad days. Many things happen which you cannot control.
You have the power of looking at everything going well in your life and making the most of it. No one else can help you feel better but yourself. It starts with you deciding to have a different mindset. If you want a different life then you have to change the way you look at the world. Your life is in your hands. |
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